5 Tips to Switch Your Mindset

switch mindset 5 Tips to Switch Your Mindset

Happy Monday loves!  Hope you had a fabulous weekend! So I was just sitting down to make a video for my team of coaches I mentor. I felt compelled to share here because learning to switch your mindset can literally change your entire life.

I don’t know if I’m the only one, some weeks I just am in a complete funk. There have been times where I have let one bad choice with having a few too many black bean brownies throw me off for the ENTIRE rest of the week. It becomes like a downward spiral. I know sugar can cause negative thinking based on research I have been doing & BOY IS THAT TRUE!

Whenever this happens, then I start beating myself up for my mistake, eat entirely too much more food  the again, & start feeling full of self doubt, & fear. I tend to then worry about EVERYTHING imaginable! And I KNOW to not worry because God has my back & will always provide. But then I just start feeling so down in the dumps!

Then I doubt that I could ever make a lasting change with my “slip ups” from healthy eating. That I could ever gain more success in my business. That I could make an impact on changing the world. Doubting EVERYTHING!!

Then luckily God always reminds me & leads me to amazing things, one time in particular it was a series of videos on how to switch your mindset. I have now listened for HOURS to many different videos (Marie Forleo has an awesome YouTube channel, loved many of her videos). Then I always spend some quiet time with God. Journaled. Pray a lot. Have a lot of alone time.

Then I always feel A MILLION times better! I feel on top of the world after I do these things! I always come out feeling better than I did before I went in to the silly funk. Learning to switch your mindset can seriously change your entire life.

I found this awesome picture on Pinterest that I thought would be super helpful & encouraging for you!

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Learning to switch your mindset is a process. Because of all I have gone through during my 27 years on earth (gaining 60 lbs in middle school & being overweight till I lost that 5 years ago, being made fun of & abandoned by all my “friends” after I gained the weight, a divorce, & I could keep going) it has been TOUGH for me, but it has been worth it! Here are my top 5 tips to switch your mindset:

1. Do not focus on the bad. Focus on the good. Because what we focus on we get more of. I know this is hard, we are wired to focus on the negative. But, think about what is going WELL for you & what you have to be thankful for.

2. Start each day with some type of exercise & quiet/devotion time. I like to start mine with PiYo & then spend the next two hours in the Bible, journaling, praying, sitting still in God’s presence, & then reading a great personal development book (right now I am reading “Switch”  by Chip & Dan Heath). If you aren’t a spiritual person, try some meditation.

3. Do daily affirmations. Think about how you want your life to look. Make a list. And PROCLAIM it out loud DAILY! Make sure it’s in present tense. For example, “I am debt free.” This will train your mind to focus on the things that will help you achieve whatever goal it is you have in place.

4. Take care of yourself. Eating healthy foods is HUGE. Because sugar & unhealthy foods affect your brain & your mood (do the research, it’s scary because SUGAR does the same thing COCAINE does to your brain). Get enough sleep. Take time for yourself daily (even if it’s only a few minutes). Make time for YOU weekly too, to just unplug from technology, pray/meditate, go out in nature, just to center yourself.

5. Grab an accountability partner. This is what we do in my fitness groups & with my coaches that I mentor, so that I can help them gain financial & health freedom. When you have an accountability partner & someone you can report your progress to, you’ll be more likely to do the RIGHT behaviors. Also, having someone else to talk things through with when you’re having a bad day makes a WORLD of a difference!

So I hope this tips help you guys & please share with anyone you think it may help!

And don’t ever hesitate to email me if you just need advice or prayer or if you’d like to work on health and/or  financial freedom yourself.

Till next time!

<3 xoxo,
Jess

Learn to Love Yourself

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It seriously breaks my heart to see so many women out there struggling with self confidence, self love, hating what they see when they look in the mirror, & not seeing themselves how God sees them. Why? Because I have a heart for others & THAT WAS ME! I know how it feels & it is painful every day.

I still have my struggles, but God has taken me so far & I am so thankful. Because of that I want to help AS MANY WOMEN as possible to completely turn around their life. The body, mind, & soul all work together & if one is off everything will be. Take it from someone who knows VERY WELL!!

I remember back during my days of being 60 lbs heavier, getting drunk every night, smoking a pack of cigarettes a day, eating terrible food, being promiscuous how I felt & I did all of those things to fill a VOID because I felt so EMPTY! Then God came in & turned it all around & has helped me get to where I am now. But, up until recently I truly did not learn to love myself.

I would constantly beat myself up (still working on it), didn’t value myself, didn’t see my own worth, still hated what I saw when I looked in the mirror. But then God started showing me how HE sees me & THAT is what is most important! God will give you SO MUCH LOVE & teach you how to love YOU. Once you have that, your life will not feel empty anymore & you will be SO HAPPY all the time (well, you’ll still have a few moments but not as many haha).

With that being said, I want to remind you that my Body Mind Soul Fitness Challenge will be starting on September 29th! I am accepting 10 very special ladies & still have a few spots left! Cannot WAIT to renew our bodies, minds, & souls TOGETHER, learn to love ourselves, gain confidence, & feel on TOP OF THE WORLD!!! <3

Comment below with your email or send me a message to reserve your spot <3

Some enCOURAGEment

Love this quote!

“I believe in you; God believes in you; and it’s time for you to believe in yourself. Today is a new day! Put the past and all its negative, discouraging comments behind you. Negative words and words that speak of failure come from the enemy, not from God, so decide right now not to allow the power of ‘you can’t’ to influence you anymore. In contrast, God’s Spirit encourages you and will do everything to urge you forward toward success in every area of life. God tells you to have courage, so always remember if you feel ‘dis-couraged,’ that is from the enemy and if you feel ‘en-couraged,’ that is from God. Choose to agree with God and say to yourself, ‘I can!’ And let the power of your positive thoughts and words outweigh the power of the negative words anyone else has ever spoken to you.” -Joyce Meyer, Power Thoughts

How to Have Faith in God During Hard Times

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Today God put on my heart to share with you how to have faith in God during hard times. 2013 was the best year of my life but also the hardest year of my life. To be really honest, it was hard at times to continue having faith. I just listened to an amazing sermon by Pastor Steven at Elevation Church (my church here in Charlotte) & it totally opened my mind to everything & how to continue to have faith in God during hard times.

The hard times & struggles we go through during our life may not be the most pleasant experience, but it’s all for a reason. Those trials will teach us something & help guide us in to the direction God wants us to go. Think about hard times you’ve gone through in the past & how they’ve turned out. God always has a plan even if we can’t see it.

No matter how much a situation beats us up or how much it hurt, God will always be there for us. He is always faithful & we have His promise that He WILL provide. Count your blessings, remember all the good things in your life, & all that you have to be thankful for. Reflect on all the things that HAVE changed & improved. Write those down.

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So this was short & simple but I wanted to show you how to have faith even when it hurts. God is always faithful, as long as we give that faith to Him!

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As always, don’t forget to love yourself!

Xoxo,

Jess <3

Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is Freedom

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Happy Monday ! I actually got inspired to write this post while listening to the song “Freedom Reigns” by Jesus Culture. I began to really think about the phrase & about the sermon at church from over the weekend. I know a lot of you know my story, but I just wanted to share the POWER of how the Lord can truly give you freedom in your life. I’ve been going through many trials the past few months, but would you have known that about me if I didn’t tell you? Because of the Lord I am able to stay joyful through it all. Let me tell you how the Lord has changed my life because where the spirit of the lord is there is freedom.

Here is just a list of all the things I was struggling with only a few years ago:

  • I was overweight. I was an emotional eater. I ate horrible foods.
  • I drank a lot of alcohol. I was drunk every night.
  • I smoked cigarettes. A pack a day if I had a day not drinking (which was unlikely). Days that I drank I probably smoked two packs.
  • My happiness depended on my boyfriend. Without him around I was miserable.
  • I had no self confidence. I had poor self body image. I didn’t believe in myself. I spoke negatively to myself daily. I didn’t believe my dreams would ever come true or were possible.
  • I was shy. I was afraid to talk to people I didn’t know. I was afraid to share about myself when I did meet people.
  • I was at a job that was draining me emotionally. I wasn’t treated fairly.
  • I didn’t have many meaningful relationships or friendships. I would just hang out with the people who would drink with me.
  • I was far away from God. I had no idea what having a relationship with Him was about.

Now to counter all of these things, let me tell you how my life looks today:

  • I lost 60 lbs. Yes, I’ve gained a few because of muscle. But, my eating is under control. I eat delicious nutritious foods that give me energy & help me stay healthy.
  • I rarely drink alcohol. It just ruins my goals & progress.
  • I quit smoking. It disgusts me now to be quite honest.
  • I’ve been single for  two years & couldn’t be happier. I found myself again, have been growing myself, & my relationship with God.
  • I am way more self confident. My body image is improving. (It’s a process for me.) I believe in myself & KNOW that all my dreams will come true & that they are possible. Because anything is possible through Christ.
  • I LOVE being social & being around people. I love making new friends. I’m an open book! Anything I can share, I will, in hopes it’ll help others.
  • I now get to do what I LOVE & am passionate about. I would do it for free. My business is filled with a bunch of amazing people & I am so blessed.
  • I’ve become friends with so many great people & formed so many meaningful relationships. People that are like minded that also dream big & love God.
  • I found God again & Jesus is my #1 homie! I love my devotion time, being in the word, my church, my life group, & doing anything I can to help further His kingdom.

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Do you see now that where the spirit of the Lord is there is freedom? I would have not been able to do any of these things without God. Once I found Him again, He helped morph me in to the person I am today. I used to worry so much about every little detail. I used to want to control every situation. It’s still hard for me to not have control (it’s my personality), but I know that everything happens in His time (even if I don’t like it) & that He has a plan. There is no need for me to worry because I know God is by my side. I feel like I have broken the chains of bondage. Where the spirit of the Lord is there is freedom.

Please RT or share with anyone this may help!

As always, don’t forget to love yourself!

Xoxo,

Jess <3

When Food is Your Best Friend and Worst Enemy

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Do you feel like this is you? You’re not alone!! I lost 60 lbs a few years ago & have maintained that weight loss since then, but I have been struggling lately with the food aspect. Food is by far the toughest part about a healthy lifestyle, but it is the most important. Your results are 80% food & 20% fitness. So, what do you do when food is your best friend and worst enemy? I’ve finally figured it out today & wanted to share with you.

If you’ve been reading my previous posts, you know that for the past few months I’ve been eating a very bland diet. When I say blend, I mean egg whites, veggies, & the occasional bowl of oatmeal or slice of Ezekiel bread. And my Shakeology of course. That was it! I was working on getting more toned, but over time I realized this was not sustainable. I’m not going to be in a bikini competition so why deprive myself so much?! I started binging on the weekends whenever it was supposed to just be my cheat meal. I realized that food was my best friend and  worst enemy.

So here’s the deal y’all! We have to go back to the simple basics:

  • Eat more fruits & veggies. I aim to eat one of the two at every meal.
  • Get your exercise in. Shoot for at least 30 minutes a day 4-5 days a week.
  • Get enough sleep. Relax. Don’t stress.
  • Listen to your body, not what others tell you.
  • Calories in vs. calories out. You must be burning more calories than you’re consuming.
  • Everything in moderation. If you make a food “off limits,” you’re just going to go out of control whenever you do consume it. Or you’re going to just keep eating other stuff until you fulfill that craving.
  • Make healthy versions of “naughty” foods. There are TONS of substitutions that you can use to make recipes healthier. For example, instead of mayo use plain non-fat Greek yogurt.

So are you still wondering what to do when food is your best friend and worst enemy? Well, it does take time y’all. You do have to be patient, persistent, & dedicated. But, it doesn’t have to be restrictive. It’s not a diet, it’s a lifestyle change. And if you’re still unsure of what to eat – I have great news for you!

I am currently working on two major projects that will help you figure out how to have a healthy relationship with food.

  1. Recipe E-Book – I will be releasing an E-Book with my friend Sarah with tons of delicious recipes that are simple & healthy. We are aiming for November, so keep your eyes peeled!
  2. Holiday Survival Guide – I am launching a 6 month program where you’ll learn how to survive the holiday season without gaining weight, but still enjoying delicious foods. You will learn how to make this a lifestyle change & even lose weight & keep it off for good.

Here are more details on the holiday project:

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I really hope this article helped you because I’ve personally struggled with my relationship with food my entire life. I’m finally back at a happy point with it again & I can’t wait to help you do the same. So now I hope you know what to do when food is your best friend and worst enemy! I truly also hope to see you in my holiday group as well, it’s going to be amazing!

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As always, don’t forget to love yourself!

Xoxo,

Jess <3

Restore Your Relationship with God

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Have you ever felt like you’re on an emotional roller coaster that just won’t stop? You’re not alone. I’ve felt that way the past month or so since moving to a brand new city & state. I was seriously having emotional breakdowns several times a week & thought that things just wouldn’t get better. After talking to several of my close friends, going on a road trip, & praying a lot I’ve finally figured out what was going on. I realized that I need to restore my relationship with God. Today I want to share with you how you can help calm down your emotions even when you’re going through some really tough times.

I’ve been battling a lot emotionally due to being in a new place, feeling lonely at times, binging due to being on a restrictive diet, & some financial things as well. I continued praying, but felt like nothing was changing. Then I realized something huge – I was not putting my relationship with God first. You CAN restore your relationship with God just as I have done recently. So here is what I started thinking & doing that I thought would help y’all out as well:

  • Don’t worry about things out of your control. Do everything you can to improve it & give the rest to God.
  • Don’t let a bad day turn in to a bad week or year. Things won’t always be a struggle.
  • Keep your friends close & don’t spend too much time alone when you’re going through hard times.
  • When you feel like it’s too hard to stand, get on your knees & pray.
  • Remember the good things that you have that going on & be thankful for them. Just don’t think about the bad.

Those were just things that helped me out mentally. I also started doing new things in my daily routine that have helped me out with restoring my relationship with God:

  • Listen to worship music first thing in the morning & spend an hour with God & in prayer.
  • Go outside & be active. Take a walk. Do some jumping jacks.
  • Call a friend. Skype a friend. Hang out with a friend. (Don’t be alone when you’re down!)
  • Listen to Elevation sermons & get plugged in to other similar resources.
  • Cook something fun that makes me happy.
  • Read more. Read personal development. Read books for fun. Read books about God.
  • Listen to worship music at night while falling asleep. Spend time with God during the day.

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Doing these things the past couple of weeks have truly helped my mental stability & my emotions lately. I feel so much happier than I did a few weeks ago & I feel comforted by God. I’m no longer worried about all of the things I was a few weeks ago. I realized I needed to stop trying to control everything & run to God & let Him know how much I need Him. I know I cannot do anything without Him & I don’t know what I was thinking before!

So I really hope you know if your relationship with God has faded like mine did for a bit, it is possible to restore your relationship with God. He will be waiting for you with open arms icon smile Restore Your Relationship with God

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As always, don’t forget to love yourself!

Xoxo,

Jess <3