Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman

becomingproverbs31woman Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman

I never knew what the Bible said about health and could care less about following what it said or about losing weight (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). 

I spent most of my life being overweight and unhappy. I didn’t workout or exercise and I had no idea about getting in shape or anything related to fitness. I struggled with a body image disorder even after losing weight. So I want you to know that we all struggle from time to time. Let me share my journey with you on how I lost weight and how God transformed my entire life.

I have always believed in God my entire life, but I never had a relationship with Him or even knew what that meant.

I was forced to go to church when I was younger and I did not understand anything about it. My parents finally stopped making us go once I got to high school and I never went back to church until I was 21 years old.

When I was in college, I was very far away from God and my lifestyle reflected that (1 Corinthians 10:31).

I actually started dating someone who was in the military when I was 18 years old and we were engaged within 6 months of dating.

I got married at 19 years old and divorced by the time I was 20 years old.

Once we got married and moved in together, it completely tore us apart.

We did not know each other well enough and we rushed in to something that should be taken very seriously. I was in to partying back then, and my ex husband had a drinking problem. We tried to go to marriage counseling to mend our relationship because we continuously argued.

The counseling did not help us and I could not handle the emotional abuse anymore (2 Peter 1:5-6). 

I consulted with my mom because I knew that God was against divorce. But, there were times when my ex husband and I got in to arguments and it almost turned in to physical abuse. With the help of my parents, I decided that it would be best to go through with the divorce.

After my divorce was finalized, I started dating someone quickly after.

We met in college. Dating this person helped me become more confident in myself because he treated me completely different than my ex husband. That confidence helped me to quit smoking cigarettes (I smoked a pack a day) and made me want to take care of my body. I lost 60 lbs by starting to eat healthier and doing home workouts. Even though I lost weight, I was still not confident and had a body image disorder because I still felt like I was fat.

This was the first stage of becoming a Proverbs 31 woman.

Things started to become very serious with my boyfriend. I moved to another state after graduating college, but we decided to stay together. We only saw each other on the weekends, but we grew closer and closer.

We talked about getting engaged and married some day.

However, our relationship didn’t really seem to be moving forward. We were living in two different cities and that caused us to argue because we were so unhappy with not being able to see each other often.

My unhealthy relationship affected every other area of my life (1 Corinthians 3:17). 

I couldn’t see my life without him, so I decided to keep trying for a while. One day I decided that after three and a half years together, I could not go on being so unhappy. I loved him a lot and didn’t think I could survive by myself being single because I had never really done that before. We had many differences and I had recently started going to church again and wanted to get more involved, but we didn’t see eye to eye on that.

I decided to end things with him, which was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done emotionally, even harder than my divorce.

We continued talking back and forth for a few months after the break up, which wasn’t helping me move on. I still also had a body image disorder and struggled with my self-esteem. But, I had started going to church more often after our break up. Then I ended up recommitting my life to Christ again and got baptized.  Once I made this decision, God literally helped me change everything about my life.

This is when the other stages of becoming a Proverbs 31 came to fruition. 

I finally started to have more confidence from losing weight and leading a healthier lifestyle.

But, I was not mentally or spiritually healthy. God gave me the strength and courage to join a Bible study with a group of women I didn’t know. He also gave me the courage to start volunteering at church and in the community. This is where God truly transformed me mentally and spiritually.

I Can Do All Things Through Christ Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman

I began to read the Bible, pray, and learned what having a relationship with God really meant (1 Corinthians 9:27).

I stopped being so afraid to go outside of my comfort zone and meet new people. I started coming out of the depression from my break up. I met so many amazing people who impacted my life and helped me grow to where I am now healthy mentally and spiritually.

A divorce and break up from a long-term boyfriend were extremely hard situations to go through (Philippians 4:13).

But, I would not be who I am now if it weren’t for these situations. I never thought I would be able to say that I ran a half marathon, got my Master’s degree, went on a mission trip to Poland, and become a health and fitness coach to help others achieve their goals.

I am now living by myself with my two kitties, and enjoy being single.

I am healthy spiritually, mentally, and physically, and I am working on becoming the best woman I can for God and His kingdom.

 

I wanted to share this with you in hopes that it will just touch one of you and help you in some way. I still struggle sometimes, you’re not alone.

 

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Finding Your Identity In Christ

struggles identity Finding Your Identity In Christ

So often we have struggles that we are going through that end up turning in to our identity, they become a part of who we think we are. Or we may have a particular struggle because we are trying to fill a void where we aren’t allowing God in to our life in that specific area.We may be placing or identity in the fact that we are an emotional eater or overweight. So you must work on finding your identity in Christ so that you can realize the truth & what God thinks about you. THAT is who you are; not a binge eater, not a lazy person, etc.

This is the first step of the process of treating our body like a temple because we must overcome our identity in other things or struggles and place that identity in Christ. Once we do that, we can overcome any eating struggle & start treating our bodies like a temple & honoring God. Because we may feel weak or that we can’t do it, but with God anything is possible.

Do you know what God says about you? He says that through Christ you are more than a conqueror. And Christ is within you & the Holy Spirit resides inside of you. So THAT is why we must treat our body like a temple because we need to make it a comfortable place to reside. Otherwise we will be lacking & overcoming struggles on our own become impossible.

Finding your identity in Christ can be a process because so often we tell ourselves all that we aren’t or what our struggles are during that time. I encourage you to just dive in God’s word & see what He says about  us & meditate on that. Focus on the good things that are going on right now & what you are thankful for that God has blessed you with.

Don’t focus so much on your struggles that you get so obsessed & wrapped up in them that they become your identity. Believe me, I have been there all too recently by putting my identity in my money, my business, my weight, etc. It’s so freeing to let go! Give it over to God because finding your identity in Christ will completely change you & give you peace.

Finding your identity in Christ is the first step in honoring your body like a temple because the process is mental and spiritual. Our thoughts & feelings turn in to actions so we must feed ourselves with spiritual food that will in result cause us to make healthier lifestyle choices (eating, exercise, etc.)

“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple & that God’s spirit dwells in your midst? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy that person; for God’s temple is sacred, & you together are that temple.” – 1 Corinthians 3:16,17

Please RT or share with anyone this may help.

Xoxo,

Jess <3

Finding Your Identity In Christ

struggles identity Finding Your Identity In Christ

Last week I told ya’ll that I would be diving in to more details about why we should treat our body like a temple and how exactly to do that. So to break it all down, I want to start off by talking about finding your identity in Christ.

So often we have struggles that we are going through that end up turning in to our identity, they become a part of who we think we are. Or we may have a particular struggle because we are trying to fill a void where we aren’t allowing God in to our life in that specific area.We may be placing or identity in the fact that we are an emotional eater or overweight. So you must work on finding your identity in Christ so that you can realize the truth & what God thinks about you. THAT is who you are; not a binge eater, not a lazy person, etc.

This is the first step of the process of treating our body like a temple because we must overcome our identity in other things or struggles and place that identity in Christ. Once we do that, we can overcome any eating struggle & start treating our bodies like a temple & honoring God. Because we may feel weak or that we can’t do it, but with God anything is possible.

Do you know what God says about you? He says that through Christ you are more than a conqueror. And Christ is within you & the Holy Spirit resides inside of you. So THAT is why we must treat our body like a temple because we need to make it a comfortable place to reside. Otherwise we will be lacking & overcoming struggles on our own become impossible.

Finding your identity in Christ can be a process because so often we tell ourselves all that we aren’t or what our struggles are during that time. I encourage you to just dive in God’s word & see what He says about  us & meditate on that. Focus on the good things that are going on right now & what you are thankful for that God has blessed you with.

Don’t focus so much on your struggles that you get so obsessed & wrapped up in them that they become your identity. Believe me, I have been there all too recently by putting my identity in my money, my business, my weight, etc. It’s so freeing to let go! Give it over to God because finding your identity in Christ will completely change you & give you peace.

Finding your identity in Christ is the first step in honoring your body like a temple because the process is mental and spiritual. Our thoughts & feelings turn in to actions so we must feed ourselves with spiritual food that will in result cause us to make healthier lifestyle choices (eating, exercise, etc.)

Next week I will talk more about some action steps to honor God with your body by treating it like a temple.

“Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple & that God’s spirit dwells in your midst? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy that person; for God’s temple is sacred, & you together are that temple.” – 1 Corinthians 3:16,17

Until then, don’t forget to love yourself!

And please RT or share with anyone this may help.

Xoxo,

Jess <3