Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman

becomingproverbs31woman Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman

I never knew what the Bible said about health and could care less about following what it said or about losing weight (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). 

I spent most of my life being overweight and unhappy. I didn’t workout or exercise and I had no idea about getting in shape or anything related to fitness. I struggled with a body image disorder even after losing weight. So I want you to know that we all struggle from time to time. Let me share my journey with you on how I lost weight and how God transformed my entire life.

I have always believed in God my entire life, but I never had a relationship with Him or even knew what that meant.

I was forced to go to church when I was younger and I did not understand anything about it. My parents finally stopped making us go once I got to high school and I never went back to church until I was 21 years old.

When I was in college, I was very far away from God and my lifestyle reflected that (1 Corinthians 10:31).

I actually started dating someone who was in the military when I was 18 years old and we were engaged within 6 months of dating.

I got married at 19 years old and divorced by the time I was 20 years old.

Once we got married and moved in together, it completely tore us apart.

We did not know each other well enough and we rushed in to something that should be taken very seriously. I was in to partying back then, and my ex husband had a drinking problem. We tried to go to marriage counseling to mend our relationship because we continuously argued.

The counseling did not help us and I could not handle the emotional abuse anymore (2 Peter 1:5-6). 

I consulted with my mom because I knew that God was against divorce. But, there were times when my ex husband and I got in to arguments and it almost turned in to physical abuse. With the help of my parents, I decided that it would be best to go through with the divorce.

After my divorce was finalized, I started dating someone quickly after.

We met in college. Dating this person helped me become more confident in myself because he treated me completely different than my ex husband. That confidence helped me to quit smoking cigarettes (I smoked a pack a day) and made me want to take care of my body. I lost 60 lbs by starting to eat healthier and doing home workouts. Even though I lost weight, I was still not confident and had a body image disorder because I still felt like I was fat.

This was the first stage of becoming a Proverbs 31 woman.

Things started to become very serious with my boyfriend. I moved to another state after graduating college, but we decided to stay together. We only saw each other on the weekends, but we grew closer and closer.

We talked about getting engaged and married some day.

However, our relationship didn’t really seem to be moving forward. We were living in two different cities and that caused us to argue because we were so unhappy with not being able to see each other often.

My unhealthy relationship affected every other area of my life (1 Corinthians 3:17). 

I couldn’t see my life without him, so I decided to keep trying for a while. One day I decided that after three and a half years together, I could not go on being so unhappy. I loved him a lot and didn’t think I could survive by myself being single because I had never really done that before. We had many differences and I had recently started going to church again and wanted to get more involved, but we didn’t see eye to eye on that.

I decided to end things with him, which was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done emotionally, even harder than my divorce.

We continued talking back and forth for a few months after the break up, which wasn’t helping me move on. I still also had a body image disorder and struggled with my self-esteem. But, I had started going to church more often after our break up. Then I ended up recommitting my life to Christ again and got baptized.  Once I made this decision, God literally helped me change everything about my life.

This is when the other stages of becoming a Proverbs 31 came to fruition. 

I finally started to have more confidence from losing weight and leading a healthier lifestyle.

But, I was not mentally or spiritually healthy. God gave me the strength and courage to join a Bible study with a group of women I didn’t know. He also gave me the courage to start volunteering at church and in the community. This is where God truly transformed me mentally and spiritually.

I Can Do All Things Through Christ Becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman

I began to read the Bible, pray, and learned what having a relationship with God really meant (1 Corinthians 9:27).

I stopped being so afraid to go outside of my comfort zone and meet new people. I started coming out of the depression from my break up. I met so many amazing people who impacted my life and helped me grow to where I am now healthy mentally and spiritually.

A divorce and break up from a long-term boyfriend were extremely hard situations to go through (Philippians 4:13).

But, I would not be who I am now if it weren’t for these situations. I never thought I would be able to say that I ran a half marathon, got my Master’s degree, went on a mission trip to Poland, and become a health and fitness coach to help others achieve their goals.

I am now living by myself with my two kitties, and enjoy being single.

I am healthy spiritually, mentally, and physically, and I am working on becoming the best woman I can for God and His kingdom.

 

I wanted to share this with you in hopes that it will just touch one of you and help you in some way. I still struggle sometimes, you’re not alone.

 

Comment below and share what you’re going to do to inspire or encourage others today! : )

Healthy Eating Go-To Scripts

Hey loves!!! I wanted to share this with you. They’re called Healthy Eating G0-To Scripts, so they’re things you can say to yourself whenever you’re feeling tempted to blow your eating plan. It really helps me when I say these things to myself. I especially like “I can find other ways to celebrate!” and “I’m made for more than being stuck in the vicious cycle of defeat!” Which ones do you like?? Don’t be afraid to even say these things out loud. You may feel like a crazy person, but you’ll be surprised how powerful it can be to speak truth to yourself! You tell that brownie! You tell it that it doesn’t have the power to consume you anymore! icon smile Healthy Eating Go To Scripts

 Healthy Eating Go To Scripts

 

Motivation Monday!

 Motivation Monday!

Happy Memorial Day!!!!!!  It’s Motivation Monday!

What is your motivation for getting healthy? My motivations span a wide range, from silly little things to some pretty big stuff. Here’s a list, in no particular order, of some of my motivations to exercise and eat healthily:

  • To look super cute in my summer clothes
  • To take preventative action against the diabetes and heart disease that’s rampant in my family
  • To have more energy and focus
  • To get rid of brain fog
  • To get toned abs, arms, and legs
  • To have healthy lifestyle habits I can pass on to my children
  • To have increased confidence and comfort in the body God’s given me
  • To learn self-discipline
  • To have improved moods and attitudes
  • To wear be able to wear those pants again that are a bit too tight
  • To have victory over self-image issues I’ve had my whole life
  • To be stronger and have more physical endurance

All of these are really good motivations, and good reasons to get fit. But honestly, there are some days where absolutely none of them cut it. Some days, the present reality of delicious looking ice cream is a whole lot more appealing than the future possibility of getting diabetes. Some days, the cupcake seems worth the brain fog. Some days, watching Netflix instead of doing my work-out is way more motivational to me than looking good this summer.

So how do we motivate ourselves when all our best motivations fall short?

I’m starting to learn that on days like that, my motivation doesn’t work if I’m doing it for myself. You see, I don’t really want to do what’s best for myself a lot of the time. Maybe this is because I have no real understanding of how truly valuable I am.

The only motivation that works for me on days like that is to do it for God. When we are tempted to compromise our healthy eating or our exercise, it’s usually because deep down we don’t feel valuable enough to be worth the effort. So when that happens, I have to look to God. Because He’s infinitely valuable, and He’s worth the effort. He deserves my self-discipline, even if I don’t feel like I’m worth it.

When I switch my motivation from trying to do something for myself to doing something to honor God, it frees me from a huge weight. It makes me realize that He cares about my health and fitness infinitely more than I do. It also lifts my perspective, helping me see myself the way God sees me. Instead of feeling like I’m not really worth all this work and discipline and discomfort, I remember that I have a divine destiny. God made me in His image and put me on this earth to do something for His glory that only I can do. He has given me skills, gifts, and resources that are uniquely mine, and He desires to do something greater than I can imagine in and through me.

I love this! When our motivation becomes honoring God, He steps in and helps us honor ourselves. He reminds us that He loves us and that we are precious and valuable to Him. It also takes the pressure off when I realize that this fitness journey isn’t about me as much as I think it is. It’s really about Jesus. It’s about Jesus making me more like Himself to shine His light to the world.

Now I’m not saying it’s bad to have those motivations I listed at the beginning. Those are all great things. But they will all fail eventually if they’re my only motivations because they’re all based around me and my own strength. The only way to make it on this journey is on God’s strength. So He must be our true motivation!

Today, list out your motivations for getting fit. Then pray and ask God to help you find a solid, lasting rock of motivation in Jesus.

 

“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” -1 Corinthians 6:19-20

Flat Belly Foods

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Happy Monday! Just wanted to keep it short & simple this week because I’m in a bit of hurry, but I didn’t want to not send anything out! I know that a lot of ya’ll out there have New Years resolutions focused on health & fitness so I figured I would give you some tips to eat on flat belly foods to help you slim up!

Here is just a list of 25 flat belly foods to incorporate your diet that will help you slim down:

  1. Extra virgin olive oil
  2. Almonds
  3. Beans
  4. Spinach
  5. Avocados
  6. Pork
  7. Grapefruit
  8. Apples
  9. Eggs
  10. Nut butters
  11. Nonfat Greek yogurt
  12. Mushrooms
  13. Low-fat milk
  14. Tomatoes
  15. Turkey
  16. Salmon
  17. Whole grains
  18. Berries
  19. Broccoli
  20. Asparagus
  21. Garlic
  22. Soybeans
  23. Dark chocolate
  24. Vinegar
  25. Walnuts

Just keep in mind that your results are 80% diet, 20% fitness! So focus on these flat belly foods to attain the best results possible!

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As always, don’t forget to love yourself!

Xoxo,

Jess <3

New Years Resolutions

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Happy Monday! I hope everyone enjoyed an amazing holiday week enjoying Christmas with their families. I had a wonderful time visiting mine for an entire week, it was lovely.

I got back late last night & looked at the calendar today & realized tomorrow is already New Year’s Eve! Time has flown this year!! I wrote my goals out for 2014 a few weeks ago, but I wanted to talk about New Years Resolutions today. So many of us make New Years Resolutions & then end up giving up on them by March. I want to help make 2014 YOUR year & help you achieve everything you’ve ever dreamed of!

The 10 most popular New Years Resolutions are:

  1. Lose Weight
  2. Volunteer to Help Others
  3. Quit Smoking/Drink Less Alcohol
  4. Get a Better Education
  5. Get a Better Job
  6. Save Money/Manage Debt
  7. Get Fit
  8. Eat Healthy Food
  9. Manage Stress
  10. Take a Trip

I am so blessed to say that these are all things that I have been able to do through God and becoming a coach last year! My ENTIRE life has transformed & changed. If any of these are your New Years Resolutions, let me encourage you for a minute.

Just a few years ago I was a selfish, dark depressed girl at 200 lbs who drank & smoked & partied, didn’t care about others or my future, & was not responsible with money or anything else. Fast forward to today and I have now lost 60 lbs, help others for a living & LOVE it so much I would do it for free, have the BEST job I’ve ever had making the most money I’ve ever made, am paying off my debt, getting fit, living healthy, stress free, & EARNING free trips! Praise God!!

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I always knew I wanted to change (for half my life), but I didn’t know how. Then one day I woke up & realized that it’s never too late! And YOU deserve to live a life of happiness & a chance to start over. I would love to help you with your New Years Resolutions. Maybe becoming a coach is something you’re ready to do or maybe you’re ready to take a step to becoming a healthier version of you. Either way, contact me & I would LOVE to help you make 2014 YOUR best year yet!

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As always, don’t forget to love yourself!

Xoxo,

Jess <3

How to Overcome Binge Eating

overcome binge eating How to Overcome Binge Eating

Today I wanted to write about something that I also struggle with in hopes that it’ll help others. Ever since losing 60 lbs a few years ago & keeping it off, I have struggled with binge eating. I will decide to go on these crazy restrictive diets & then when I am done & can have “real food” again, I tend to get out of control.

Most recently I was doing probably the most restrictive diet I have ever done in my life & it caused me to end up binging pretty bad at Christmas. I literally just wrote ya’ll a post Monday about how to stay healthy, but I didn’t follow it myself. Sweets are totally my weakness so I overindulged on several cookies & lots of Sangria. But for once, I am not going to beat myself up & am going to take this as a learning lesson. I have decided no more crazy restrictive diets, I will just eat healthy & allow myself small treats in moderation so that I don’t feel the need to overindulge.

So because of all this I was doing some research on how to overcome binge eating so I wanted to share it with ya’ll, too.

  1. Mange your stress. Find alternate ways to handle stress such as exercising, meditating, or other relaxation practices.
  2. Eat 3 meals a day plus healthy snacks. Be sure that you’re eating every 2-3 hours & consuming healthy foods. Think lots of whole grains, lean proteins, veggies, & fruits.
  3. Avoid temptation. Remove all the junk food from your house so it’s not there to tempt you.
  4. Stop dieting. Avoid banning certain foods & focus on just having things in moderation when you are craving something “unhealthy.”
  5. Exercise. It will help boost your mood & the positive emotions can put a stop to binge eating.
  6. Fight boredom. Distract yourself from eating by taking a walk, calling a friend, or reading a book.
  7. Get enough sleep. Make sure you’re getting 7-8 hours a night.
  8. Listen to your body. Learn to distinguish physical hunger & emotional hunger. Drink a glass of water & if you’re still hungry 15 minutes later, than you’re truly hungry.
  9. Keep a food diary. Track what you’re eating. You’ll be less likely to eat too much if you know you have to write it down.
  10. Get support. Use your family & friends to lean on. Join a support group.

I know the one that stood out to me most was “stop dieting” because that’s basically the only one that I’m struggling with now. I also know that having a huge support system around me helps so much! I never had this before I became a coach. I would love to help you get the amazing accountability & support that I get on a daily basis. Head over here to come join us!

binge eating How to Overcome Binge Eating

I hope this post helps you if you are struggling with binge eating as well. It can be difficult when you are trying to figure out how to overcome binge eating, but we can do this together!

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As always, don’t forget to love yourself!

Xoxo,

Jess <3

5 Tips to Stay Healthy During Christmas

christmas 5 Tips to Stay Healthy During Christmas

 

I cannot believe it’s Christmas week!! Where has 2013 gone?! I am headed out of town in a little bit to go visit my parents for the holiday. I hope you get to spend the holiday with your loved ones as well celebrating the real reason for this season – JESUS! Today I wanted to just quickly give you a 5 tips to stay healthy during Christmas while still enjoying yourself.

1. Exercise - Don’t forget to get in some movement, even if it’s just a 30 minute walk. Staying active will help you feel better.

2. Relaxation - Don’t allow yourself to get stressed over the business of the season. Remember to take time to rest & take care of yourself.

3. Nutrition -  Try to make healthy choices by getting plenty of whole grains, fruits, & veggies. And when you enjoy your treats, do it in moderation. One cheat day a week is okay though icon smile 5 Tips to Stay Healthy During Christmas

4. Water - Make sure you are staying hydrated. If you are drinking alcohol, be sure to up your water intake a bit so you don’t get that horrid holiday hangover.

5. Sleep - Make sure you are getting enough. 7-8 hours a night is key so that you feel at your best.

And most importantly remember this…

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Merry Christmas to you & your family!

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As always, don’t forget to love yourself!

Xoxo,

Jess <3